Twitter

I've got my new twitter background set. I'm still trying my best to network in the BDSM world. My sub is all about blogging, but not twitter. We've come a long way, but still have a ways to go. Still trying to figure out when and how to squeeze in this lifestyle. It's hard with work, school, a child, a busy house and life in general.

I would love to hear your comments.

Not something you do, something you practice

Once I got over my pride issues I saw that there was a lot to learn. Now that I know that she needs structure and guidance  I'm trying to make sure I'm the best HOH for her.

The practice of BDSM for us may be different than others (I'm very open to suggestion). We are currently working on lists of thigs that we expect from each other. My list consists of rules followed by the punishment. I may share parts of her list to me later. As I said before this isn't something you can jump into without fully understanding. I did it once and I learned my lesson. We will have clearly defined rules, and enjoy it more because we both know when, where and why things are happening.

Put away pride to learn from someone else

When I thought of BDSM I thought it was the dominant figure getting what ever it was they want. If they didn't get it they would punish their submissive for not doing it.

We all probably know about BDSM, if you do skip this paragraph (wall of words). Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the fact that the participants usually take on complementary, but unequal, roles. Typically, participants who are active — applying the activity or exercising control over others — are known as tops or Dominants. Those participants who are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners, are typically known as bottoms or submissives. Individuals who move between top/dominant roles and bottom/submissive roles—either periodically within a relationship, or from relationship to relationship—are known as S/switches.[2]

What I failed to see was that being accountable for raising someone in this lifestyle is a big undertaking. I was still seeing it as a spanking when I wasn't happy. My sub was doing all the reading, joining groups, talking to people and I was just along for the ride. Can a bottom teach a top?