Not something you do, something you practice

Once I got over my pride issues I saw that there was a lot to learn. Now that I know that she needs structure and guidance  I'm trying to make sure I'm the best HOH for her.

The practice of BDSM for us may be different than others (I'm very open to suggestion). We are currently working on lists of thigs that we expect from each other. My list consists of rules followed by the punishment. I may share parts of her list to me later. As I said before this isn't something you can jump into without fully understanding. I did it once and I learned my lesson. We will have clearly defined rules, and enjoy it more because we both know when, where and why things are happening.