Put away pride to learn from someone else

When I thought of BDSM I thought it was the dominant figure getting what ever it was they want. If they didn't get it they would punish their submissive for not doing it.

We all probably know about BDSM, if you do skip this paragraph (wall of words). Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the fact that the participants usually take on complementary, but unequal, roles. Typically, participants who are active — applying the activity or exercising control over others — are known as tops or Dominants. Those participants who are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners, are typically known as bottoms or submissives. Individuals who move between top/dominant roles and bottom/submissive roles—either periodically within a relationship, or from relationship to relationship—are known as S/switches.[2]

What I failed to see was that being accountable for raising someone in this lifestyle is a big undertaking. I was still seeing it as a spanking when I wasn't happy. My sub was doing all the reading, joining groups, talking to people and I was just along for the ride. Can a bottom teach a top?